nothing much to update about the health status of the boyfriend. he is well. feeling absolutely fine and has even began going back to work for a few days. this is only temporary of course, as his second round of chemo is just around the corner. then another…then rest time before surgery scheduled in april. and finally, more chemo.
we are floating in the calm before the storm.
as for myself, i find myself caught in this downward spiral of sadness, guiltiness and loneliness. i feel sad because i have things in my life that are not going well..and one of them is my boyfriend being ill. over the past weeks ive been trying to play the role of being a ‘supportive girlfriend’. ive tried to fraction out my days off to be with him, to keep him company, to get him out of the house. when he was feeling down about his illness, ive tried to comfort him, to cheer him and his family up as we face this challenge together. and through all this i know everyone is occupied with being concerned with how both his mental and physical health is.
and so, for me to feel like my own needs and feelings are being neglected…is a nono right?
i cant help but feel as if my own feelings are being put aside. there are some things that i have asked him to do for me, but he continuously puts it off, saying he doesnt have time or is too tired. honestly though, he would use his time to do something else and he doesnt feel tired anymore. it then puts me through the guilt phrase, where the angel side of me tells me to be more understanding of his situation and that I am being unsympathetically rude for feeling such way.
both of these negative feelings then brew together and create the next phrase, loneliness, which is basically me not initiating to see anyone. ive become hermit like, not thinking twice of making an effort to reconnect with those around me. ive received many messages of ‘checking in’ or ‘felix updates’. as much as i appreciate the movement, i actually would like to step away from this topic and leave my house. i need to feel like i have done something for a day.
and so, tomorrow im leaving the city for the date. going to do some hiking. maybe it’ll chase al the blues away.